Put your hand in mine

When your in love with someone, you do all your lovey dovey cutesy couple things, wierd – for some reasons Samoans here in Samoa just don’t do that.

Its Taboo.

Kids walk to school with thier friends and hold hands, girls can hold another girls hand, a boy can hold another boys hand – but a girl and boy holding hands is kaukalaikiki (considered cheeky) LOL

So unless we are either pro-gay and lesbian, it is instilled in our culture that holding hands with your girlfriend or boyfriend is just something ‘you do not do’ (even if your married!)

The lack of public showing of affection between couples is a wierd observation to me, only because I haven’t been in one here in Samoa (relationship that is) LMAO so I wouldn’t know and I don’t have anyone to practice this taboo with.

I’m guessing though, that some part of me would probably not even do it.

Is it rude? I’m not quite sure.

Everyone I’ve asked just says ‘you just don’t do it, your allowed to, but generally relationships are just a private thing’.

Holding hands is a beautiful thing to see, ok seriously, just thinking about it makes me wanna go and date someone so I can have a hand to hold (when I go to NZ or somewhere else) LOL.

Hm. Ok, just thought I’d share that with you )

Love Always.

0 thoughts on “Put your hand in mine

  1. LOL.

    This is soooo true. I don’t think its a taboo thing.. Its been a ‘samoan’ thing that public signs of affection are just considered inappropriate. Comes with all the ideas of respect and privacy.

    I did find it strange that when you watch t.v and see couples hold hands yet its really rare to see my own parents do it unless of course under the influence of alcohol. LOL

    But personally i hold hands with my Samoan bf (maybe coz we live in NZ) ..ahaha.. But for some reason i think if i was to be with him in Samoa and around my aiga or in village i wouldn’t. And if he was to come to my house or church in NZ we just wouldn’t hold hands.

    This is really weird though. Maybe its the way i’ve been raised. LOL

  2. As a palagi dating a Samoan in Australia, my boyfriend not holding my hand in public was a huge culture shock to me. I respect it, but being raised in a family where my parents show a lot of affection, i wish my boyfriend did too hahahahah

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